“A heart at peace gives life to the body, but envy rots the bones.”
The 21st century has become an age of social media. We learn about the happenings in the lives of friends, acquaintances, and sometimes complete strangers through the use of our favorite social media apps. I am often found tweeting about the happenings of my classroom, posting my latest artwork to Instagram, or giving a status update on the crazy actions of my beloved dog on Facebook. However, social media is a tool to accomplish a means. It is not a lifestyle. Too often, we can fall into the trap of reading the news feeds of our social media accounts and start feeling down. Why? Comparison.
Do any of these thoughts ring true for you?
“She is so much thinner than me. She clearly works out WAY more than me. They got a house, and I’m still stuck in my tiny apartment. They can have a baby, and we are still childless after all this time. Her life is SO much more organized than mine. Her job is so much more interesting than mine! Her children clearly love her and never misbehave.”
Or, maybe you are a bit prideful…
“I have way prettier hair than HER! Wow, when was the last time she went to the gym? My house is way cleaner than theirs. Our kids behave so much better than theirs. SHE got that promotion?! How is that even possible? I bet her home is like a zoo. She is so disorganized and WAY too laid back.”
Ok, if you’ve never had these thoughts, before you can continue reading, I need you to check two things first:
1. Are you, in fact, a human being living and interacting with others here on planet Earth?
2. Are you being honest with yourself?
Now that we have that out of the way, we must understand comparison is a very real thing, and we can often be overwhelmed by it on social media and in our daily lives in general. However, as followers of Christ we are called to not to compare, but to love. Our identity is not in comparing our entire lives (the good, bad and the ugly) to the highlight reel of our social media friends. Our identity can only be found through Christ. He knows us best, and only He can truly give us value and worth.
~ Marisa McClintock, Lifegate Women
Consider taking a break from social media. Write down what times of day you are most likely to utilize social media, and have a plan in place for how you will spend this time with the Lord instead. Replace that time spent looking at temporary happenings of others’ lives with time spent with the One who was and is and is to come.