At first glance of your life, it might be easy to say that you are a woman who gives, a woman who serves, a woman who lives out her day-to-day thinking of others. If you have spent any time in church or flipping through the pages of scripture, you will quickly see that “loving others as yourself” is one of God’s deepest desires for us, His beautiful daughters. It is how He created you. As a woman, you were created to nurture, to give, and to serve! In this way, you were made in the image and likeness of God.
Jesus spent his days serving, giving, and pouring out to everyone around him. Although he was a heavenly King, worthy of royal treatment, He became a servant to all. Laying down His life for the ones he loved! Mark 10:45 says, “For even the Son of Man came not to be served, but to serve…” So, if you are made in the image and likeness of God and he is the great servant of all, where is the disconnect? Why does there sometimes seem to be such a gap between the powerful ministry of Jesus and the way we minister to those around us? The answer is simple, but sometimes hard to discern. It all boils down to the motives of your heart.
Whether you may volunteer regularly, donate your money frequently, serve on committees, or spend many hours doing community outreach, they all pale in comparison to the true meaning of why you actually do them. What are your intentions behind what you do? Living in our world’s system, you have probably been taught to go after what you want, pursue your dreams and strive to achieve your goals. While these are wonderful attributes of many successful people, it is not the mindset we are to have when we serve others.
Jesus was a man who served, gave, and poured out with a benevolent love. A benevolent kind of love is one that is motivated by empathy and purposed for the sole reason of benefitting someone else. Jesus didn’t have ulterior motives – He didn’t look out for what He could gain from others, but instead He was moved to serve out of compassion, kindness, love, and the pure delight of bringing life to others.
So ask yourself what truly is the heart behind the things you do, the words you speak, and the way you act? Read 1 Samuel 16:7. God sees your heart and knows your motives. Ask Holy Spirit to reveal any selfish motives you might have. Do you give to be noticed? Do you serve to receive praise? Do you love others, in order to feel loved by them? Do you act a certain way to be liked and accepted? All of these reasons may be masked as outwardly actions of kindness, but they are really rooted in selfish intentions of the heart. You don’t need to pray for humility or even against the spirit of selfishness/pride, all you have to do is ask Jesus to fill you with his love and his heart for others. In that there is no selfishness, no pride, no motives, but a pure and passionate heart to see the lives of the people around you to be filled with hope, joy and peace. Continue praying for an increase in the love of Christ and watch him truly begin to change you from the inside out!
Lifegate Women, Campus Lead – Papillion